Have you ever stopped and thought about that question?
Who are you?
Not where do you work, what’s your marital status, or do you have any ankle grabbers at home?
No, none of that.
Who are you?
I never really thought of the answer to that question until I began feeling it reverberate in my heart. A nonstop echo that asked, “Vonae, who are you? Do you even know who you are?”
I mean, I thought I did. I was Vonae. A wife, a mom, a teacher (sometimes), a . . . You know, the usual labels that we point to, hold up as accolades or achievements. I was all of those things.
I’m almost certain that was not the answer God was looking for and so began my journey to finding out exactly who I was. In that time, God whispered in my heart, “You can’t tell my people who they are until you know who you are.”
Wow, thank you God for loving me enough to point out where I was missing it.
Where are you missing it?
When we think about our identity, there are so many things that grasp for top spot. Does your job title or lack there of make you who you were called to be? Does the perfect house or car ensure that you’ve arrived? Do your kitchen skills cement favor with God and man?
If it were up to the latter, I’d be in a lot of trouble.
Recently I had the privilege of leading a women’s Bible study and if you’ve been around a lot of women, they certainly can cook, bake and craft. I’m almost certain God left those womanly chromosomes out of my DNA. If I’m going to be honest, I was shocked at how talented all these ladies were and how much joy they had producing things that only caused me anxiety and distress.
Homemade this that or the other from scratch? What? Why? Cant I just buy it from Publix? I burn water in the microwave for crying out loud!
To say I was feeling a little unwomanly would be an understatement. So what’s a girl to do?
Of course ask her husband what exactly it is she’s good at . . .
Of course right?
Well, he absolutely agreed that the kitchen was not a welcomed environment for me, (thanks honey) but he and a trusted mentor echoed the same thing to me, that I want to encourage you with.
“You may not be good at any of those things, but God made you to be able to influence and encourage many.”
I have to admit, that made me frown. So basically, I’ll never be able to cook, bake or DIY anything, but I can make people feel better about themselves? Do I have that straight? Great . . .
Sarcasm aside, you may never be gifted to do what the next person can, but God made you uniquely you. He formed and crafted you in a way to bring radical change to your sphere of influence and He wants to help you know who you are and whose you are so that you can go out and do just that.
If we look to other people or things for our identity, we will never fully experience who God created us to be. His plan for you was in motion before you were ever a blip on your parent’s radar, a headache to that boss who seems like he’s never going to promote you, or that stubborn significant other who won’t commit.
You are not those things.
You are a chosen, beloved, set apart, redeemed, wanted, adopted and wholly accepted son or daughter of God.
That is who you are.
No matter what you can achieve, produce or accumulate, God has great plans for you and wants the best for you. Believe that He is good and does good!